So What's All The Trust About?

Trust. Trust yourself. Trust your gut. Trust your instincts. Trust that it will all work out. Trust that those who love you will keep you safe. It comes up all the time, and it gets thrown around a lot, so what does it really mean to trust?

We tell ourselves to trust, but where do we even start? We ask others to trust us, but how do we make that happen?

I’ll tell you one thing I know for sure it that trust is built on a series of small moments. Whether it is with ourselves or with someone else, it is the consistent, little things that matter. It’s showing up on time, when we said we would. It’s getting out for that walk, when we told ourselves we would. It’s respecting and keeping information safe when someone has shared something with us so close to their heart. It’s those moments when our words are completely in line with our actions.

It also means that we can start now. We can start today. We can build trust with ourselves by making a list of a few simple things that we can stick to and make happen. A few small goals that we put in place and then achieve. Like committing to a morning routine, implementing an evening ritual or executing a weekly chore. When we do this, when we consistently show up for ourselves, no matter how big or small the action, we reinforce in our brain that we can be trusted to be there for ourselves when we need to be.

When we take this idea into the world of our relationships, into our Mother & Daughter relationships, we can also teach the other that we can be trusted to be there for them when they need us. We check-in regularly, we are mindful of our reactions when something is shared and we consistently set aside uninterrupted time together. We ask the other what they need and we give it to them. We under-promise so that we can always over-deliver. We take it one step at a time.

Trust is without a doubt one of the most foundational aspects of any relationship, including the one with ourselves. It is delicate. It requires bravery. It can be humbling. And yet, it is where we must begin.

Love & Trust Fiercely,

Carmen